I have talked with several homosexuals. i was saddened with what i heard. most of them have no interest in fighting for their own right. they have no intention whatsoever to put in a fight in making homosexuality becomes more acceptable in the society. some of them, surprisingly oppose gay marriage. when i asked why? they said because religion says it's wrong so they will marry a woman because it's the 'right' thing to do. then i asked, what about their attraction to guys? he said maybe he would play with guys once in a while after marriage.
well done, very well done. (in case you are poor in detecting sarcastic remarks, this is one)
what they are interested in- sadly is finding other guys to have sex. i have to restrain myself from batman-bitchslap them.
a thousand facepalms are not enough to express my disappointment in them. their behavior tarnished the image of homosexuality.
i fight for my own rights. because if i dont care, who would?
Wednesday, 6 February 2013
Why it is wrong?
There's only ONE reason why homosexuality is perceived as wrong. All homophobes are using this only one excuse to persecute the homosexuals. that reason is RELIGION.
it absolutely pisses me off. Despite thousands of arguments on why homosexuality is not a bad thing, people would shut their ears and assume all of those logical arguments as wrong- because religions say homosexuality i wrong. they will not be open to listen to what other people have to say, regardless of whether it is true or not.
double standard is everywhere and it makes me want to puke in their mouth. people go against the teaching of their religion all the time. but it appears to them it's all OK. for example, discriminate, alcohol, lottery, skipping prayers, stealing, cheating..etc.. the list go on and on. there people have selective faith. what do i mean by selective faith? they just select whatever they WANT to follow in their scripture.
who give them the right to impose their own personal beliefs in determine other people's life, telling them how they should live their life, when other people's life has absolutely nothing to do with them? Who on earth gave them the right to impose their own self-constructed belief system upon the world? what if we tell them how they should live their life?
yes, it is true that i am absolutely angry with those self righteous religious people, but i wont hate them, because my religion teaches me to love everyone- even my enemy. but it seems they have no idea whatsoever about this commandment. if they knew, they would not go around and persecute. they are just busy condemning the homosexuals.
it absolutely pisses me off. Despite thousands of arguments on why homosexuality is not a bad thing, people would shut their ears and assume all of those logical arguments as wrong- because religions say homosexuality i wrong. they will not be open to listen to what other people have to say, regardless of whether it is true or not.
double standard is everywhere and it makes me want to puke in their mouth. people go against the teaching of their religion all the time. but it appears to them it's all OK. for example, discriminate, alcohol, lottery, skipping prayers, stealing, cheating..etc.. the list go on and on. there people have selective faith. what do i mean by selective faith? they just select whatever they WANT to follow in their scripture.
who give them the right to impose their own personal beliefs in determine other people's life, telling them how they should live their life, when other people's life has absolutely nothing to do with them? Who on earth gave them the right to impose their own self-constructed belief system upon the world? what if we tell them how they should live their life?
yes, it is true that i am absolutely angry with those self righteous religious people, but i wont hate them, because my religion teaches me to love everyone- even my enemy. but it seems they have no idea whatsoever about this commandment. if they knew, they would not go around and persecute. they are just busy condemning the homosexuals.
Sunday, 3 February 2013
Damage
Homophobia is causing more damage than homosexuality
Because of repulsion and rejection from the homophobes, homosexuals fired from work, get bullied and countless of unfair treatments, punished by law, rejected by family or beaten to death are just a few examples of what gay undergo. Keeping gays in the closet hurts everyone--not just gays. Many marriages end because a gay husband or wife can no longer live a lie. Spouses are devastated. Children are confused. Friends and relatives are enraged from the fallout.
Gay bullying happens a lot. it comes from friends, family, society and even government.
Bullying causes permanent damage to young people and blights the schools and colleges where it takes place. One of the most invisible forms is homophobic bullying. But it’s not just a gay issue. Homophobia affects all pupils and students – lesbian, gay, bisexual and straight. we have heard a lot of teens took their life because of persistent bullying. Teens are the most affected generation.
· Lesbian and gay pupils are more likely to leave school at 16 despite achieving marks that merit continuing with their education.
· Two in five say they fear that bullying will continue if they stay.
· Three in four bullied lesbian and gay young people say they feign illness or play truant to escape the impact of bullying.
· The effects of homophobic bullying are not limited to lesbian, gay and bisexual young people. An educational culture where homophobic bullying exists can affect anyone singled out as different. A culture where any sort of bullying exists makes schools unsafe for everyone.
now, take a few moments to think about what damage can be specifically caused by homosexuals. while some heterosexuals couples dump their babies everywhere, homosexual couples saves lives by adopting unwanted babies and children. but still people are saying gay couples cant raise a kid because 'lack of fatherly or motherly figure'. this is absurd. people should know that there are tonnes of parents who neglected their children out there.
16,000 attend seminars on how to curb LGBT
From The Star online, February 1, 2013:
About 16,000 parents and teachers have attended the Education Ministry’s seminars on how to curb lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) behaviour.
Deputy Education Minister Dr Mohd Puad Zarkashi said 21 seminars had been held and the ministry would be conducting more.
About 1,000 participants from 156 schools in the North Seberang Prai and Central Seberang Prai districts attended yesterday’s seminar at Politeknik Seberang Prai yesterday.
Dr Mohd Puad said that not many people knew how to handle the LGBT issue.
“It is like a disease but it can be cured with early intervention,’’ he told a press conference after opening the seminar.
In September last year, the first seminar in Penang drew controversy when “definitions” were distributed to help parents and teachers spot LGBT tendencies.
It said LGBT tendencies could be spotted among boys wearing tight-fitting V-neck T-shirts and carrying large sling bags, and girls who enjoy the company of their own gender.
Dr Puad urged parents to recognise the symptoms to prevent their children from practising the LGBT lifestyle.
The seminar was organised by the Putrajaya Consultative Council of Parents and Teachers Associations with the cooperation of Yayasan Guru Malaysia Bhd.
Saturday, 15 December 2012
Gay family
I watched some videos in youtube about gay family, how they live with their children, and how they run their life as gay parents. I encountered a youtube user depfox (probably owned by the couple). I am touched by their videos.
They adopted a baby girl and a 5 year-old boy, named Daniel, who has a medical condition cause by his biological mom's alcohol consumption during pregnancy. His mother was negligence and obviously alcoholic. The mother alcohol problem caused the poor little boy to have a condition of which the left side of his body is underdeveloped. So, the left side of his face was not normally formed. He has difficulties in uttering words perfectly, he has one leg shorter than the other, and he also has lots more of other medical conditions and actually had several surgeries. It has been few years now, and i can the boy is doing very well, living in a perfectly healthy, happy family.
But still, there are some people, who were mindless enough to say that gay couples should not adopt kids. They said that kids deserve to be with a mom and a dad, living in a happy family. But we have to know that we are not living in a perfect world where every kids have a loving mom and dad. We are not living in a fairy tales ( even in fairy tales there are abusive father and mother). There are lots of kids out there, abandoned, neglected or abused by their own biological parents. Just two days ago in the newspaper there was a man physically abused his child. I feel terrible for these kids and i want each and every one of them to live in a loving environment like what this gay couple gave to Daniel. I am happy that Daniel doesn't have live with his negligence, alcoholic biological mother. I am hoping the unfortunate kids out there, with or without parents, can have a happy life Daniel is having.
To the homophobic people out there that saying gay couple should not adopt children because of the lack of fatherly or motherly figure in the family and any other ridiculous reason: in Daniel's case, the gay couples are actually mending the harms caused by heterosexuals. The gay couple is giving the unfortunate kids a chance to be fortunate and live the life they deserve. My dad, he never had the chance. his mother hated him and his father neglected him before they finally divorced. He stayed with his grandmother (who was also negligence) for a while before living alone in a boarding school for his entire school life. Where is your loving heterosexual parents? Where is your fairy tale world? What kids deserve is not a mother and a father, but to be loved. It does't matter if it's mom and dad, dad and dad or mom and mom. Love is love.
Today, after seeing the child abuse news in the tv, my mom said that she would treat her grandchildren equally. Then i asked "even the adopted grandchildren?". To my delight, she smiled, and said "yes, even the adopted grandchildren".
They adopted a baby girl and a 5 year-old boy, named Daniel, who has a medical condition cause by his biological mom's alcohol consumption during pregnancy. His mother was negligence and obviously alcoholic. The mother alcohol problem caused the poor little boy to have a condition of which the left side of his body is underdeveloped. So, the left side of his face was not normally formed. He has difficulties in uttering words perfectly, he has one leg shorter than the other, and he also has lots more of other medical conditions and actually had several surgeries. It has been few years now, and i can the boy is doing very well, living in a perfectly healthy, happy family.
But still, there are some people, who were mindless enough to say that gay couples should not adopt kids. They said that kids deserve to be with a mom and a dad, living in a happy family. But we have to know that we are not living in a perfect world where every kids have a loving mom and dad. We are not living in a fairy tales ( even in fairy tales there are abusive father and mother). There are lots of kids out there, abandoned, neglected or abused by their own biological parents. Just two days ago in the newspaper there was a man physically abused his child. I feel terrible for these kids and i want each and every one of them to live in a loving environment like what this gay couple gave to Daniel. I am happy that Daniel doesn't have live with his negligence, alcoholic biological mother. I am hoping the unfortunate kids out there, with or without parents, can have a happy life Daniel is having.
To the homophobic people out there that saying gay couple should not adopt children because of the lack of fatherly or motherly figure in the family and any other ridiculous reason: in Daniel's case, the gay couples are actually mending the harms caused by heterosexuals. The gay couple is giving the unfortunate kids a chance to be fortunate and live the life they deserve. My dad, he never had the chance. his mother hated him and his father neglected him before they finally divorced. He stayed with his grandmother (who was also negligence) for a while before living alone in a boarding school for his entire school life. Where is your loving heterosexual parents? Where is your fairy tale world? What kids deserve is not a mother and a father, but to be loved. It does't matter if it's mom and dad, dad and dad or mom and mom. Love is love.
Today, after seeing the child abuse news in the tv, my mom said that she would treat her grandchildren equally. Then i asked "even the adopted grandchildren?". To my delight, she smiled, and said "yes, even the adopted grandchildren".
Friday, 14 December 2012
The great and the famous
Alexander the Great, Leonardo da Vinci, Michelangelo, Socrates, Julius and Augustus Cesar, and Aristotle.
What do these people have in common?
They were gay.
Yes. You heard that right.
What do these people have in common?
They were gay.
Yes. You heard that right.
Wednesday, 5 December 2012
The Dilemma
Yes, i am attracted to guys. but no one should forget that gays's genital have the same functionality and structural attributes as the straights' that enable it to perform accordingly (omg what am i saying). simply put, what i am saying is that, although i am gay i can still be able to get married to a girl and have children of my own. frictions induce blood flow to the area so it would not be a prob... oh wait, i think i should stop right here.. so anyway, this, gives me a huge dilemma.
having my own children has always been my dream. i have already thought of different names i would give to my children. I want to be the greatest dad in the world and make my children the happiest children in the world. this dream, has received a huge blow ever since i figured out that i have no interest in women.
it frustrates me a great deal seeing happy straight couple in fb. some are married and have cute children. it hurts me every time. then i start questioning myself why can't i like girls the way straight guys do. i see girls as friend, awesome companions. in fact, all my best friends are girls... except one. i dont hate girls just that i am not sexually and emotionally attached to them. it's definitely not the same like attaching a file in an email, so, i can't just attach myself to them, and tada, i am straight, married to a woman and have kids of my own.
will it be fair for the girl if i say "girl, i am not interested in your body. i am interested in what your body can provide me (this case, babies)", "i am marrying you but i dont love you, i love a guy", "i need your womb, not you nor your vagina". i suppose i can do that, but it also implies that if this is what the society want me to do (ignore my sexuality and live a life of a straight), then they are suggesting me to say those thing to a girl (of which i dont fancy doing).
this is why sexuality and sexual conduct is two different thing. i can be gay and have sex with a girl. i certainly can do that but the question is whether i really want to, whether it is really the right thing to do.
so what's the best to counter the conflict between sexuality and sexual conduct?
having my own children has always been my dream. i have already thought of different names i would give to my children. I want to be the greatest dad in the world and make my children the happiest children in the world. this dream, has received a huge blow ever since i figured out that i have no interest in women.
it frustrates me a great deal seeing happy straight couple in fb. some are married and have cute children. it hurts me every time. then i start questioning myself why can't i like girls the way straight guys do. i see girls as friend, awesome companions. in fact, all my best friends are girls... except one. i dont hate girls just that i am not sexually and emotionally attached to them. it's definitely not the same like attaching a file in an email, so, i can't just attach myself to them, and tada, i am straight, married to a woman and have kids of my own.
will it be fair for the girl if i say "girl, i am not interested in your body. i am interested in what your body can provide me (this case, babies)", "i am marrying you but i dont love you, i love a guy", "i need your womb, not you nor your vagina". i suppose i can do that, but it also implies that if this is what the society want me to do (ignore my sexuality and live a life of a straight), then they are suggesting me to say those thing to a girl (of which i dont fancy doing).
this is why sexuality and sexual conduct is two different thing. i can be gay and have sex with a girl. i certainly can do that but the question is whether i really want to, whether it is really the right thing to do.
so what's the best to counter the conflict between sexuality and sexual conduct?
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